Being Others is Easy - Being You is Hard

We come upon a time in life where we look back at the years that was passed, think about the people who have come and gone and think ponder about if we still are the same person we once were. Where did that person go? Why have I become into this totally different person who am not? Did I change myself, or did someone change me into this person. All our lives we inherently possess a boundless stream of energy, an energy which we draw from the culmination of events which we go through, the energy which people bring and take from us. Summoning this forth, we can break through the shell of the small self that constrains our lives. The process of revolutionizing our own lives and helping others to do the same, can not only transform the society around us, but ultimately elevate the state of humanity by itself.

This article is not about good and bad, its about what we are about to understand finally in the end. Did we make the right choices, did we end up meeting the right people, did we do the right things. These words are about the million questions we end up asking ourselves in the end. Where did we come about and what finally made us to be like this, the we, that we are now. We often consciously blame ourselves that we have done things wrong, but sometimes we don’t understand the subtle influences which people dear to us have brought in us and as age catches up with us, we realize that those influences which have made us happier as a person, stick more harder to us and shape us to be who we are now. Little things like anger, emotions and sentiments stick to us like morning dews on a leaf, slowly sliding into our actions and shaping us from within. If we are to ask, how did I become like this, the answer most probably would be, because we chose to be.

Gunter Grass once said, “People change with time. There are things that happened to a person in his childhood and years later they seem to him alien and strange. I am trying to decipher that child. Sometimes he is a stranger to me. When you think about when you were 14, don't you feel a certain alienation?” I can promise you that what I have seen as a child as certain had its effects while I grew up and those little molecules of pain, harmony, happiness and grief have travelled across the spectrums of my life and have helped me make decisions, have rules my consciousness and have changed the way I saw life once and for all. For children its sometimes a lot harder to visualize the effects of life in those early stages. My parents played a pivotal role in making me the person I am today. Be it small influences like saying no to smoking and yes to casual drinking, my dad kept telling me how cruel the world has become and making me slowly understand that life is not what I thought it once was, it has changed a lot from then. We are in an age where money, power and sex rule the world. May be its just that the world was always changing and often we forget to catch up. We get stuck in a particle of moment which we love, we hold on to it, we never let it go and we live in it for as long as it can be. But then, life has kept moving, the people we knew, the life around us has moved on.

When someone walks into your life, you don’t embrace them initially, you stand up, you give them the distance, you judge them in a very subtle manner, you don’t open your heart. You wait and give them the ropes too slow, for them to catch on, know the best of you. For each of you these moments are very crucial, they mean those very first moves you try to make to understand them a little better each day. The issue happens when you come into a persons life with agendas, with preplanned motives, things which are already in the mind, waiting ready to execute. I guess that little part, changes everything. I have always wished people come in our lives without exceptions, to accept us, to love and to whole heartedly embrace us, as we are. I now realize the hidden truth of it. I guess people don’t change at all, at some point, they just reveal who they really are. 

The life around us is very beautiful, the morning, the nights, the seasons, nature, the sun and the stars, everything has remained the same, only man has changed, he has changed a lot and still is. Believe me when I say, being others is easy, being you is hard. With all those values and morals your elders have instilled in you, to live with all the freedom and yet live by the lines, to have money which can buy everything, but still use it wisely, to posses the power to do all wrong, yet do the right thing, that is hard . We have to believe in ourselves that who we are when no one is looking is what means the most to us. If we have chosen the right beyond the bad, if our minds are set to do what is necessary to the people around us. I guess that is all what matters. May be its time to understand that our greatest accomplishments are not in the monuments that we build or the satellites we fire up into the sky, instead its in the lives we have change, the ones who make us matter. In the end its is all that will matter. Because in the end, we cannot change people at all, we can only love them.

When people come in to your life and say your life its not as perfect as it seems, or if its boring and calm. Just take a deep breath and look at yourself a good look. Ask yourself if your happy, if you have loved ones around you, if for you, this world is exactly the way it should be, and if you are content with everything life has thrown you with. If the answers are yes, ‘You have a blessed life and you don’t need anything more’. You don’t need to hide yourself, because your afraid of what others think of you. You have the complete will and choice to live your own life, the way you want, with who you want it, or where you want. This life is truly yours and yours alone.

All our lives we inherently possess a boundless stream of energy, an energy which we draw from the culmination of events which we go through, the energy which people bring and take from us. Summoning this forth, we can break through the shell of the small self that constrains our lives. The process of revolutionizing our own lives and helping others to do the same, can not only transform the society around us, but ultimately elevate the state of humanity by itself.